It is very common for couples to experience issues with their sex life over the course of a relationship. This is even more true for couples who have been together many years. This is very common and a huge advantage of using couples therapy to address sexual issues…because therapy can help you and your partner work through the discomfort of talking about sex so that open and honest expression can happen. So do not worry if you and your partner feel anxious, worried, or even shy talking about sex. With time, we will work together using patience and curiosity to create a safe space for you to both talk openly about sex and affection in your relationship.
Sex vs Affection - Ecstatic Intimacy
My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Our sex life is great and far more exciting than I thought it would be at this stage. Your husband may be a bit of a hedgehog outside the bedroom, but behind closed doors you have been getting everything you want, and then some, for 15 years. When married people complain about a lack of affection, they usually mean a complete lack of intimacy — no kissing, no hugging, no sex and, more often than not, no communication. When intimacy dies it is generally because one or both parties feel angry, hurt or resentful and this becomes a physical barrier between the couple.
Want more affection in your relationship? Have more sex
CNN Want to have a more affectionate relationship with your life partner? Carve out time to have more sex. That's the takeaway of a series of four studies of committed couples in both the United States and Switzerland.
Sex or affection? Which do you want more? As a man or a woman, have you ever felt like you were actually degrees different than the opposite sex? Even I feel that way sometimes!